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For a child, watching his parents get divorced can be one of the most depressing things in his life. Children of different ages will handle the divorce differently, but here are some general tips on how to help children cope with a divorce. Many children do not express their feelings in a completely honest way, and they will often hide it if they are hurt. Do not allow them to do this; encourage them to be honest with you about how they feel about the divorce. For example, a child may believe that it is his fault for the divorce, but you would not know that if he keeps this information to himself…this could lead to the child becoming depressed because he blames himself.

If he is open with you, you could reassure him that it is definitely not his fault for the divorce, and this would allow him to cope with the divorce better. In addition, you will have to put on a strong face for the child.

Obviously, divorces are stressful for everybody, but try to stay as stress-free as possible. If a child sees his parents stressed out all the time because they are getting a divorce, this will likely lead to the child becoming more and more stressed. Do not fight with your soon to be ex-spouse in front of your children, if possible. Once again, this would cause your child to be more stressed. If you really need to argue, make sure you do it far enough away from the children so they cannot see or hear you.

If all else fails, do not hesitate to get help so your child can cope with the divorce better. This includes support groups with other people (and children) that are going through a similar situation, online resources, and possibly even doctors. Finally, do not allow your child to be a “shoulder to cry on”. Do not talk to them about your problems with the marriage; talk to a therapist about that instead.

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Source by Mishaun Taylor